Chapter 1
NEEDS
Women are the salt of life, so said the Bible. Women are the
offshoot of men. They complete men. Treat your woman like a queen and you are
better than your past. a single When lady enter a gathering of bachelors, the
ambience change to fun. In my Nigeria local parlance,” ari du nu ni won je”.
The woman need is categorized into three, they are as follow; psychological need,
emotional Need, and financial Need. The
needs are connected such that it can’t be set apart. They are interwoven and
complement each other. The beauty is that you must satisfy the three to fully
enjoy your woman. However, some women could endure a man who could satisfy the PN
[psychological need] and EN{emotional
need} if he is perhaps hardworking and
focused in life. The diagram below
depicts the relationship between these three significant needs of a woman.
Psychological Needs
Talking to affect the thinking of a woman In a captivating
and romantic way make them feel special. Sofi Matz said and I quote “The female
human’s brain is so complex and mysterious. And for a man to get the girl of
his dreams, he needs to know how a woman thinks and acts during courtship or
mere conversations with the opposite sex.Some of the most basic psychological
needs of a woman that can be of great help in wooing her as follows:
1. Instinctually,a woman has a psychological
defense towards men and is naturally cautious towards them. No matter how good-looking
or modish a man is, there is no guarantee that the woman he woos would surely
be choosing him over an ugly or stupid one. So if you really want a girl,
better be discreetly-modish when making yourself visible in front of her.
2. Women love surprises and are craving to
have a spontaneous life if they have a dull one.
3. Women like exciting men who are good
conversationalist. Remember to always make your subjective opinion towards any
idea pervade your conversations with woman you like.
4. As a mature man, you must already know
this: A woman loves real concern towards her.
5. Women like frank men. Even if the
society tells them to be reserved when talking to men, women find straight
forward guys difficult to turn down.
6. Women are very secretive. Again, women
have psychological defense towards men and are naturally cautious towards them.
They are not comfortable at the thought
that other people know their secrets .Know-it-all men certainly irritate them .Therefore ,be
humble yet clever in choosing the topics to bring-up in front of the woman you
like .Also, be careful in mentioning her secrets if you know what they are.
7. Most women lack freewill and
self-government. That is why they particularly like men who are responsible , intelligent,
passionate ,and courageous .Sometimes, even impulsively and reckless men
attract them a lot. Women dislike men who are shy, indecisive, and insecure.
But if you are willing to exhibit your finest qualities to the girl of your
dream, keep in mind to avoid being the know-it –all guy every woman hates.
Emotional Needs
As written by Kathryn Ratliff Barr,
“Satisfying a woman’s emotional needs creates feelings of happiness and contentment,
but she feels unhappy and frustrated when her need s isn’t met”. Typical female
emotional needs include conversation, affection, honesty and openness,
financial security and family commitment.
·
Conversation;
a woman needs to know that her man listens to her. Don’t insist on finding
solution if she presents a concern. Just listen until she asks for help. Focus
your attention on her during the conversation, otherwise she will become angry because you are distracted,
according to the National Healthy Marriage Resource Center
article,”Undestanding the Emotional Needs of Your Female Partner”. Talk about
things that interest both of you and let her know more about you.
·
Affection;
your woman needs to know that you care about her, and you need to show it,
in addition to saying it, says Harley. Affectionate gestures such as hugs,
holding hands, cuddling and flirting are appreciated, but you can also show
affection in other ways. For example, a small gift of flower when there is no
special occasion demonstrates affection. Speak loving words coupled with a hug
when you meet one another or leave. Help with a task her to-do list. Call or text
her to show you are thinking of her. Letting her know how much you desire her
inflames her desire and meet her need to feel desirable, as well as
demonstrating your affection, advises clinical psychologist Noam Shpancer, Ph.D.,
On Psychology Today.
·
Honesty;
Honesty and openness create a foundation of trust in your relationship. Don’t lie,
even in small things, such as whether you liked the food she cooked or what
she’s wearing. Be honest about your feelings and thoughts. If she asks where
you’re going or who you are going with, your relationship is on a downhill slide,
according to the National Healthy Marriage Resource Center.
·
Openness:
Show that you respect her and that you get what she’s feeling. Women are
happier and more satisfied when their partner understands they are angry or happy.
Respond when you know something’s off kilter, even if you don’t know what it is.
Ask her to explain what’s going on by saying, “I know you’re upset. Tell me
why.”
·
Financial
Matter and Family Commitment: Financial security and commitment to family
might not play as big part in her emotional needs before marriage and babies as
they are when she’s a wife and mom. Consider her current needs by ensuring she knows
before a date if you’re going Dutch and that you respect her need to maintain
strong family relationships. After marriage; you need
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